Buddhist Death Rituals
Buddhists believe that at death, a person goes through a process called samsara, or reincarnation, and can be reborn as a god, demigod, human, animal, hungry ghost or hell creature, depending on his thoughts and actions during life. While Buddhism doesn't require specific practices at death, the rituals that do take place focus on helping the individual achieve a better station in the next life. In Buddhism, burial and cremation are both practiced.
Buddhists believe that death is a natural part of life and that its final moments can significantly impact the individual's rebirth. When death is imminent, Buddhists focus on caring for the individual's mental and spiritual state, rather than unnaturally prolonging his life, to encourage a good rebirth. To that end, Buddhist pre-death rituals center around keeping the person calm, peaceful, and focused on the good deeds performed during his life.
Relatives will place images of Buddha and flowers around the room to keep the person calm in the face of death. Not only does this create a calm, peaceful environment, but helps maintain focus on religious thoughts and the good deeds performed during life. A mandala blanket, used during meditation, may also be used as a visual to help keep the person focused on good deeds and religious thoughts.
The family or friends may ask a monk to come and chant verses or read prayers, which helps the individual remain calm and peaceful in the face of his impending death. The monk can also encourage the dying person to focus on the good deeds performed during his life.
Family and friends may perform good deeds in the dying person's name (if possible, the person should acknowledge the actions). These good deeds are transferred to the dying person, in the hope of achieving more merit at death for a better rebirth.
Even though there are many forms of Buddhism, the belief in reincarnation is shared. It is believed that death is the transition from this life to the next. The Buddhist funeral customs are very diverse and vary between Buddhist sects and from one country to another. The funerals themselves can be very traditional and ritualistic or simple and dignified. But the most important aspect of any Buddhist funeral is that the customs and rituals of the ceremony are hallmarked by peace and serenity. Some of these customs and rituals include:
There may be a wake in which mourners pay their respects to the deceased and their condolences to the family.
There will most likely be a portrait of the deceased which is the centerpiece of the altar in front of the casket.
Embalming is also allowed.
Verses will be chanted.
Mourners may walk with sticks to signify support needed from their grief.
Mourners find a seat and wait for the service to begin.
If monks are leading the service, follow their cue as when to sit and stand.
There may be group meditation.
There may be gongs or bells rung.
The service will last approximately 1 hour.
Mourners should not record the service.
The family typically wears white or a white cloth over their clothing. This is worn in the Buddhist tradition to symbolize grieving and is a sign of respect for the deceased. The family may wear a headband or armband as well. Friends may wear black.
Bright colors or displays of wealth in clothing choices are not appropriate. No red attire specifically as it is also deemed inappropriate since it symbolizes happiness. The color of the clothing worn at a Buddhist funeral is more important than the attire itself. While the clothing should be simple and respectful, it should not be too informal such as black jeans and black t-shirts.
Like those performed pre-death, post-death rituals and Buddhism burial practices are intended to aid in attaining a desirable rebirth and give merit to the deceased. Some rituals are general to Buddhism, while others are practiced only by certain cultures.
Chenrezig Mantra (Avalokiteshvra Mantra) : "Om Mani Padme Hum." This means praise to the jewel in the lotus. The Heart Sutra Mantra: "Gate Gate Paragate Parasamgate Bodhi Svaha." This means the heart of the perfection of wisdom.
Medicine Buddha Mantra: "Tayata Om Bekandze Maha Bekandze Radza Samundgate Soha." This means may the many sentient beings who are sick, quickly be freed from sickness, and may all the sicknesses of beings never arise again.
Theravada Buddhists (those from Sri Lanka, Myanmar, Thailand, Laos and Cambodia) can incur good favor for the deceased by offering the monks white cloth to be used in the creation of robes. The merit generated by this deed is transferred to the deceased by pouring water into an overflowing cup while performing chants.